So you got married and became a man of vows. All those promises you made to your wife really mean something now, so it’s time to start walking the walk. Fortunately, being a good husband isn’t impossible. It’s about following your heart, your conscience, and acting on your love for your wife. These simple steps, if taken seriously, can help lead you and your better half to a brighter future
Be a gentleman, if she’ll let you. Most, not all, women find the idea of a gentleman sweet and endearing. If your wife is that kind of lass, get ready to bust out your most chivalrous self. Think 17th century manners, or thereabouts:
Be respectful. Respect is an act of understanding. Understand that your wife is an independent, different person, and that she may not want to do the exact same thing as you, even though your interests are usually aligned. Here are four examples of ways you can be respectful of your wife:
Never lie. Get in the habit of telling the truth. Ask yourself how you would feel if you found out your wife was keeping anything but a birthday secret from you. Always tell her where you are going if she wants to know. Tell her who you are with. Tell her what your motivations are, even if you think they’re petty. Being open and never lying establishes great verbal communication, which is at the heart of all great relationships.
Never cheat. It goes without saying, but it must be mentioned. Cheating is a form of lying. You wouldn’t be very accepting of your wife having an affair, so why would you? If you’re having an affair, take a good, hard look at your life and ask yourself why you’re married to the person you’re married to.
If you love your wife but lust after someone else, realize how unfair the situation is. You want the comfort of your wife, but you’re not willing to be exclusive and honest with her. This is selfish behavior at its most basic. You can’t have your cake and eat it, too.
If you no longer love your wife, then why are you still married to her? Both of you would probably be much better off if you were given the opportunity to find someone you truly loved, or someone who loved you back. Think about it.
Find little ways to make her feel great.It’s funny because, often, the smallest things find a way to nourish a relationship. Ask yourself, It doesn’t have to be earth-shattering to be effective. It’s the thought behind it, and the emotion in it, that’s the real gift:
Show her you love her. Why did you marry her in the first place? Express to her why you love and how she makes you feel everyday. Do this often. It will lead to good habits, promote more love and affection in your marriage, and reduce amounts of stress.
Trust her completely. A lot of the things mentioned in this tutorial revolve around trust. If you don’t trust your partner, you’re probably living in a pretty miserable place. Learn to trust your wife in the same way that you want her to trust in you.