The first time a woman sleeps with a guy she’s crazy about is an exciting and special time. Still, the question remains: When? Some women are happy to get down the night they meet; others will wait weeks or months before doing the deed. Whatever a woman’s decision, we wonder if the double standard still exist today? In other words, if a woman goes down with a guy too soon, does she automatically ruin her chances for long-term relationship?
Men push women for sxx, then blame women for having sxx. They’re particularly stuck on the idea that if a woman hops into bed with them quickly then she must have done this with lots of other men as well. This lowers her value in his eyes. After all, if everyone can have her, she can’t be all that special, can she?
On the other hand, if a guy is crazy about a girl, and they move really fast, all the rules go out the window. The sxx question is a popular one because it comes up in every dating situation. However, there’s no set timetable or finite number of dates that will let you know when it’s time to give it up. A relationship expert says it’s best to go on 10 dates before sleeping with the man but there are cases where the friendship/relationship ends before the 7th.
As a woman, your job is not to come up with an arbitrary number of dates or rules written in dating magazines, Your sole responsibility before having sex is to figure out if he’s interested in YOU or in SXX.
I repeat: Your sole responsibility before having sex is to figure out if he’s interested in YOU or in SXX. If you don’t know the answer, don’t have sex. If you think you know the answer, then have sex. And if you can’t handle the emotional consequences of making an occasional mistake, you probably shouldn’t sleep with anyone until you’re married.
What are your thoughts? Men, I’d like to hear from you as well…